Awwww, you guys, all the kind words about sisters and stuff… It’s so hard, isn’t it? I can’t fix it. I just have to keep writing and sending and praying and laughing and hoping…
That’s a huge, cement birdbath in the center there, with what looks like about 2 1/2 ft of snow on it.
Peculiar prairie dog population popping up in back yard.
That there is Snow Bliss. Really wish that kid’d cheer up…
Yesterday I decided to get in on all the snow fun. Yike.s. We had 2 to 3 ft drifts the whole way down our formerly-known-as-picturesque-winding-tree-lined-driveway, heretofore known as friggin-football-field-length-ridiculous-OVERKILL-backbreaking-daggone driveway. From hell.
I’m looking into having the house moved about 50 yards closer to the road this spring. Front yards are overrated anyways… Anyone want to submit a bid?
My husband started shovelling from the road, I started from my minivan, the plan was to meet in the middle. HAR!!! By next TUESDAY, at the rate HE was going! Mr. Analpants was practically scrubbing the blacktop with a toothbrush, he had it shoveled so SPOTLESS and SQUARE EDGES, I swear he had a laser level out there, getting a straight line, and WIDE… he was shovelling the whole width of the driveway, instead of just enough for the car!!! And all the way down to the blacktop, and then I swear to God, if the man had had a shop=broom out there, he would’ve SWEPT any shard of remaining snow from the surface!
Me, I was back by the minivan, hauling ASS, I mean I had snow FLYING, I made a path just as wide as my car, and just deep enough that I knew the car could handle what was left over, onaccounta I have something called “Action Traction” or “Active Tractive”, or “Penis Envy Peel-out” in my car, I forget what it’s called, but it can handle a few inches of snow, no problem. Also, just for fun, I couldn’t find a snowshovel at first, onaccounta my husband had them all down by the road, thinking I would want to work WITH HIM, HARRRRR… so I was using a boat oar, and paddling my way down the driveway! That shit works too, do not discount the power of an oar… Also, technically, snow IS water… So I’m tearing it UP, and I measured using my fortuitously sized 12″ boots, I made it 33 ft out in the time it took him to make it 20 feet! (I am NOT competitive!) And he was moving about 40 lbs with every scoop, compared to my oar technique! And the only way I know he was moving so slowly is that he started croaking from the road “Hon…croak….I..need…..w..w..water…” So I had to take him out a vat of water, and when I saw what he was doing down there, with all the anal-retentiveness, I gave him WHAT FOR, and we then had a healthy debate on snow-shovelling philosophies, meaning, we cussed at each other for a while at the end of or driveway, mostly in jest, but also, sorta pissed-off/joking, because it was hard work, and seemingly impossible job, and his back was already hurting from digging out his friend’s driveway the day before (he had to go home with his friend, Jeff, after work, because the roads were too bad for him to get home. Took him 2 days to get home, and he had to get pulled out of the snow 5 times on the way!)… so we’re down there debating and cussing and generally wasting time instead of shovelling, and I look over, and there’s my nice neighbor lady, out shoveling her sidewalk, which means she heard us, every word, and there’s no explaining, heh heh, um, this is just how we jag around… heh heh… sooooo… oh brother… oh well, that’s us…
I think I may have told him to shut the F up about 4 or 5 times, (in a totally funny, kidding, amusing, loving manner)as he critiqued my “line” or my technique… Because, honestly, when you have 200 ft of driveway, and 2 to 3 ft deep snow, you don’t worry about lines and edges, you just MOVE THE SNOW, that’s it and that’s all. He just doesn’t understand that. You have to get all the way down the driveway, and THEN you worry about cleaning up edges and stuff. You have to get down the driveway so that you know you CAN get down the driveway, so you don’t lose heart, you don’t lose your will, your drive, your FAITH!!! (that there’s my condensed version of my snow-shovellin’ philosophy. Yer welcome. I got plenty more where that came from.)
Here’s the truth of the matter, and my husband was kind enough to be honest about it: He looked over at Bruce’s driveway, and he had to get HIS driveway just as clear of snow as Bruce had done. Now, I’m gonna tell you, I already KNEW this, because I know men, I knew it, but for him to actually ADMIT it, well, that is truly… truly… there are no words for it, my husband is just… wonderful, and a big stupid LUGNUT, all at the same time…
Eventually, and just when we started finding our groove, and believing again that we might actually make it… this was 2 HOURS of shoveling so far, and we were about HALF WAY… (onaccounta I had pulled my husband over to THE DARK SIDE, and we were hauling ass and leaving a couple inches of non-consequential snow behind…) that’s when my neighbor motors over in his BACK-HOE OF DESTINY AND SALVATION.
Sigh. It was a beautiful thing. He made short work of the rest of the driveway, including the turn-around, which, I had already informed my husband, I was NOT participating in digging out the turn-around, as it is a LUXURY, not a necessity.
I’m just happy to be participating, truth be told. Because a year ago, I would not be out there, working and cursing alongside my husband. I just wouldn’t have cared enough to help him. That’s the truth. I have a new-found appreciation for him, that comes with being aware, being present. It’s new to me, appreciatin’ him, so I may not always get it right, but… let’s just say, I’m getting a much higher percentage of it right.























